The support from your husband, partner, or other loved one is essential. They love you and your baby in a way that cannot be matched by anyone else. It is not ever my job to take over that important role. My desire, and one of my most important goals, is to make sure the birth coach is free to fully participate in the birth experience with you by being physically and emotionally present. The birth coach can participate at whatever level they feel comfortable. I can remind or teach the birth coach tools and techniques to keep you as comfortable as possible. I suggest position changes and help the birthing mother and coach to assess how well a technique is working. I am also there to look after the needs of the birth coach. I give the coach the opportunity to grab a bite to eat and rest, if necessary, without worrying that the mother is laboring alone. In short, I tend to the details so the birth coach is free to focus on the birthing mother.